
I am an old fashioned girl at heart, and always one for romance. But as many of us know, sometimes it feels like a struggle to get there, kissing all those frogs.
My mum bought me this book when I was a teenager (oh, those sadly departed years). Well, actually, it was Santa, as it came in my stocking, but, you know...
'Dating Without Tears', a 1960s rules book. It gives a young lady all she needs to know about make-up, manners, behaviour and dress, plus sensible advice on dealing with a 'wolf'. Also included, how to be a party doll, the all-day date, holiday romances and how to give (or take!) a brush off. Serious stuff about a subject as old as time itself- the young girl's problem of how to choose, acquire and keep a boyfriend.
As you know by now, I am ship-ahoy with The Dreamboat, so my much loved paperback has been shelved, however, I happen to be playing cupid tomorrow night for two friends, so feeling nostalgic I thought I would take a little revision...
How do you rate on a date? Here are some favourite quotes of advice.
'She makes every man feel at his best. They way she smiles welcomingly, the manner in which she listens, her quick apprecitaion of all the little attentions he pays to her- these all tell a man that she likes him, that he's important. When he says, 'she's terrific!' its because she has made him feel terrific and that's something any girl can do for any man. All she needs is a little practice'.
'When you go to a party you must be able to relax (without the aid of alcohol), if you are going to enjoy yourself. This doesn't mean letting yourself go to such an extent that you kick off your shoes and dance the Twist on the top of the piano, it only means that instead of anxiously worrying about what you are going to do and say, you are content to make yourself comfortable, and have a nice smile ready...The first time to use your secret weapon (that's a big sunny smile) is when you enter a room. If it's a big party and a silence seems to have fallen just when you are about to make your entrance, think about something pleasant at home, a picture perhaps, or your puppy and how he's getting along, and you'll find a pleasant expression will come to your face warmly and naturally'.
'Whatever you wear, remember you can't look date-worthy without a smile and sparkling eyes to complete the picture'.
'Don't stick to lemonade and orange, but try the offbeat things like dandelion and old fashioned stone ginger'.
'A moonlight bathing party sounds romantic, but in the British climate it is really an endurance test. a sunset bathing party is better, while the sea still holds the days warmth'.
'The only way a girl can hunt, is by allowing herself to be found, so the thing to do is find somewhere this is likely to happen'.
When at a dance, 'Study your field of operation well. Note where the light is most effective. Wait for your partners where a coloured beam from a spotlight shines down on you at regular intervals, highlighting you, as it will put a burnish on your hair and you won't be missed'.
'You are bound to have at least some idea if a broken date is The End, or whether it has been broken for some unavoidable reason. If, however, there is any doubt in your mind, behave quite normally and be your pleasant self next time you see him but make no mention to the date. This is very important. If he had a good reason for not turning up, he will loose no time in explaining why he wasn't there. If he had not, he'll wonder in silence whether you were there. Keep him wondering!'
'Questions asked don't need to be personal ones. Anything that requires an answer will do, whether its, "Can there really be such things as ghosts?" or "Why does radio reception always seem better at night".'
Wouldn't it be first-rate if this book was actually the guide of your best girlfriend? I guess that's what I'll have to work on. Take heed ladies, happy hunting!